Lately, as life has been very hectic, I’ve used my scant spare time for research. Now I won’t tell you where I’ve been online, but let’s just say it’s been an education. As a social psychologist, one of my favorite things to do is observe body language. Well, my recent foray into research has taught me a few new things about men, as well as how and what they are thinking.
We all know men expend a great deal of time and energy thinking about sex, research has proven that over and over again. And we all know men are visual creatures. Hence they look at women, a lot, and just the sight of certain body parts will turn them on. Nothing new, we women know that’s what’s going on when men chance a glance down our blouses, or turn to watch our backsides as we walk away.
But what I found so interesting in my research, was the level of thought going on beneath the surface. And not just the ‘what do I need to say or do so I can get some of that‘ kind of thinking.
Men are spending time figuring out what their partner wants, and making sure she gets it - from him, first. Before his own pleasure. Men are very interested in being told by a woman what she wants and more than willing to comply in that department. For her, not just for him. They know they will experience pleasure, but my recent research has conveyed the depths to which they will go to be certain their partner experiences a great deal of pleasure as well, first and foremost.
Perhaps it is an adrenaline rush to know they can bring a woman to pleasure in a wild, wild way, perhaps it’s an ego thing. I’m not sure. But from what I’ve learned lately, it’s definitely not selfish.
A Smith said,
September 16, 2008 at 4:00 am
I like the look of the blog. Good job.
Charlene Teglia said,
October 2, 2008 at 1:08 pm
Hmm, very interesting stuff!
talesandtallies said,
November 1, 2008 at 11:42 am
Good to see that men’s proverbial line of thought as regards sex puts women first… It makes the experience all the more worthwhile for both. nice blog you’ve got.