September 13, 2008 at 3:34 pm (Uncategorized)
Tags: erotic romance, erotic stories, research, sex
Lately, as life has been very hectic, I’ve used my scant spare time for research. Now I won’t tell you where I’ve been online, but let’s just say it’s been an education. As a social psychologist, one of my favorite things to do is observe body language. Well, my recent foray into research has taught me a few new things about men, as well as how and what they are thinking.
We all know men expend a great deal of time and energy thinking about sex, research has proven that over and over again. And we all know men are visual creatures. Hence they look at women, a lot, and just the sight of certain body parts will turn them on. Nothing new, we women know that’s what’s going on when men chance a glance down our blouses, or turn to watch our backsides as we walk away.
But what I found so interesting in my research, was the level of thought going on beneath the surface. And not just the ‘what do I need to say or do so I can get some of that‘ kind of thinking.
Men are spending time figuring out what their partner wants, and making sure she gets it - from him, first. Before his own pleasure. Men are very interested in being told by a woman what she wants and more than willing to comply in that department. For her, not just for him. They know they will experience pleasure, but my recent research has conveyed the depths to which they will go to be certain their partner experiences a great deal of pleasure as well, first and foremost.
Perhaps it is an adrenaline rush to know they can bring a woman to pleasure in a wild, wild way, perhaps it’s an ego thing. I’m not sure. But from what I’ve learned lately, it’s definitely not selfish.
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September 3, 2008 at 1:04 pm (Uncategorized)
Tags: erotic romance, erotic stories, erotic writing, historical, lust, Writing
Lust is a predominate motivator of human thought and action. Thank goodness for dark sunglasses to hide that longer than appropriate look at the guy with really nice muscles (and no shirt) you get to see out on his jog most mornings, or the guy in line ahead of you at the coffee shop, dressed in a pair of perfect fitting slacks. Now you know why guy always say “ladies first”. Sometimes the view from the back is…well, delicious.
No small thing, lust. It is why we kiss, why we touch…why we fantasize about that sweaty guy out on his morning jog suddenly stopping, pinning us against a tree and knowing just how we like to be kissed, and where. Or the man in the coffee shop dressed like the cover of a fashion magazine knowing just when to turn around, slide his gaze down our figure, look into our eyes and almost smile, letting us know he appreciates the way we look too.
Lust makes you want. Whether what you want is good for you or not, is not the point, nor does it matter. The fact is, you want. Lust has a language, an unspoken language, of it’s own. Guys are better at it, or not, depending on how you look at it than we girls are. Men can rarely hide the fact that they admire a woman’s form, or certain parts of it as the case may be, while women have a tendency to be more subtle when taking in her favorite particulars of a man’s body.
That language of mutual lust is what leads to eye contact, a smile, then repeated eye contact with broader smiles. And eventually if he’s confident enough, a conversation. Yes, lust has a language all its own. It hasn’t changed much in the last 30,000 years, but then again, neither has what we want at the end of the day, or during the day…
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